Date posted: June 30, 2009
I need ur help with something….
my boyfriend had a relationship with a married woman before we knew each other and they broke up So far … this happens
he wanted to marry her, This is the first bad sign … a man wanting to marry another man's wife says that this guy's code of ethics is flawed
but after she got divorced she didn't marry him It means that their relationship was just physical and she does not love him
and after a while she got back to her husband and she's still married to him. good for her
and of course they had slept together a lot They are adults
the problem is this woman lives with her kids abraod, but every now and then she comes back and she keeps contact with my boyfriend all the time and never let go of him It is not her fault. She is not mistaken .. why does your BF answer? Why does he see her? Why does he keep her in his life although he knows that it hurts you? He has to choose and every time she wins
and alawys when she comes we fight together and he's with her for sometime He is addicted to her … think of her like heroine or cocaine
than regret it and comes back to me, and that happens over and over again You are second best … he treats you like a spare tire and you allow it to happen
i know i'm silly to forgive him and accept him back, but i'm in love with him and don't wanna give him up Love is wise, love is positive, love makes you happy but you are not in love .. you are hanging on to him desperately like a drowning guy hangs on to a stick … knowing that the stick will not save him.
by the way he's 44 He is not a kid!
last time we were planning to get ready to marry and than she came and i heared him talking to her so i told him that's over between me and him. God saved you again!
…after less than an hour he was doing everything to hav me back …..calling thousands of times sending sms everything Just like an addict who apologizes for his addiction and promises to stop
….she even called me the next day to tell me everthing about them and hurt me so that i won't be able to forgive him…….he faught with her coz i didn't answer him an left her….. She is very powerful and does not care about anything or anyone … not you .. not the guy .. not her husband … not her kids .. she only cares for herself (I wish you had half her strength and half her pride)
everything was fine again for 20 days and than she came back and he's with her again !!!! Expected
i don't know what to do ?! Are you still asking? What more signs do you need to see that this relationship is bad news? Here are your options: 1) leave him or 2) marry him and accept her in your life. She will not go away
i don't talk to him ….don't even look at him….coz he hurt me again and he knows you will forgive him again
but i can't understand why he's with her again inspite of his crying and regretting leaving me I told you he is addicted …. she owns him
he was desperate to win me back why hurting me again ? because he cannot help himself … he wants to move on with his life and marry you but he cannot get over her
i can't understand it ……i know he loves me but can't understand his feelings towards her Sexual addiction sounds like an option
i don't wanna loose him i wanna hav him back and to keep him I told you the only two options
P.S. : he can't stand it that i'm not talking to him and keeps on trying talking to me in any subject
we work together You are the future but he is trapped in the past
plz plz plz i need ur help….what should i do to get him back You cannot win her .. she has his memories, his past, his dreams, his youth, and the best of him
and how can i deal with it now ? Here are your options: 1) leave him or 2) marry him and accept her in your life. She will not go away
plz answer me asap