Recorded Advice: Self – Confidence is the key
Date posted: May 12, 2009
I have been in a serious relationship for almost a year now. We've had our ups and downs, the usual, but everything is going pretty well and I can see a future with him. I only hope our circumstances and family issues will work out just when the time is right. I'm 20 he's 22.
That's not the case at all. The thing is I feel that he doesn't estimate himself highly enough. He shows the total opposite of that definitely, his male ego will never show that he's not that confident. But finally I've got him to talk about it and indeed he is shy around girls and never knew he'll get someone like me, "you're pretty, outgoing and funny what will make you fall for a guy like me!!" said he. I was really surprised at that. At the back of my mind I felt it though.
Mind you it didn't turn me off, on the contrary; I wanna help him overcome this. I need him to think more highly of himself and be more confident. One example is that whenever he meets any of my girlfriends for the first time, the first thing he asks is "what did she say about me?" This, only this, pretty much gets on my nerves. I understand it's only human weakness that no one can change but HIM. I only want him to see it the way I do, I just want him to admit it and understand that it's a problem that needs to be fixed, and it's normal.
Because I don't think it's healthy to deny it, for instance he says "it's not that big a deal I don't feel this way anymore." or "no no there's no problem at all! that was just in the past " cuz his words are so contradicting each other, but his attitude PROVES that he lacks a teeny tiny self confidence.
Marwa, I REALLY care about him and want to help him get over it. PLEASE.
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