CAMPUS MAGAZINE: I AM NOT A FEMINIST!
Date posted: April 1, 2010
Why do they say that I am a feminist?
People who meet me for the first time, people who read my book, people who read my articles, people who listen to or watch my shows, people who interview me, and people who talk about me – why do they all insist that I am a feminist?
Why is my name associated with that label when I know for a fact that I really truly sincerely adamantly explicitly am not a feminist?
I have nothing against feminists! They are good people!
Yes! Good people with a cause and they have my utmost respect. They have their reasons and they are fully entitled to defend their beliefs … and so do I! If they want to fight men then so be it! But I am more focused on fighting your own demons. Let me elaborate!
My mind stops working when someone throws those words on the table before me: plight of Egyptian women, women's rights, and women's issues. In my head those words on their own are discriminatory against women! Women are not lesser creatures and they do not deserve to be treated as though they had different, or special, needs!
I am not an advocate of gender equality; I am an advocate of equal human rights. Like men, women have the right to – in short – have a life! Our birth-given right for choosing what we want to do with our time on earth!
I believe that regardless of her social class, a woman with no education, no source of income, and no exposure has much less of a chance to be anything other than an extension of some male – be it her father, stepfather, brother, uncle, husband, or even son.
I have met women who, socially speaking, are supposed to be upper class but their issues are the same as those of a prisoner of war!
Such a woman did get an education, does come from a well off family, but is enslaved! She has never worked, never earned her living, never been on her own in any way or form, and does not have access to her family money (the males take care of business and give an allowance to women).
If such a woman got married to an abusive husband, what do you think she would do? Can she leave? No! Can she depend on herself? No! Can she start from scratch? No! Can she claim her money? No!
My messages are never against men! All my messages are geared towards female empowerment … belief in oneself … realizing your potential … acknowledging the fact that we all have options … taking responsibility … being accountable!
I am actually against many females out here! I totally abhor them! If you – as a woman – do not believe in yourself, why would I believe in you?
Actually, why would anyone believe in you? If you feel that you cannot handle the responsibility that comes with being independent, if you need male crutches, if you are too lazy to pursue a career, if you see yourself as a doll, then you deserve to be tossed around like one!
There is nothing I can do for someone who is a sitting duck.
If there is a will there is a way! What women lack is not access to the "way"; they lack the will and the drive to get on that journey of finding their way.
I do not mean that they are not aware of their rights. They are not aware of their power! They have no clue how powerful they are, how strong they could be, and how fulfilled they would feel if only they had a little faith in themselves – if only they erased the accumulated list of subliminal messages that turned them into vegetables!
It's funny how women are so fixated on the idea of men giving them their rights!
This is the problem with women!!! Why ask men for their approval in the first place? Why ask them their opinion? Here is a woman who wants to be a judge, sees in herself the capacity to deal with the job hazards, and is willing to pay the price for her decision – who has the right to tell her what to do with her life? Why does she need to be approved of? Why is she seeking male acceptance? History taught us that men will say that women are incapable of this or that thing until they actually see them do it!
If you my dear woman decided to take charge of your life, here are a few tips:
1) Believe that you are strong
2) Have a vision (where do you want to be in 10 years? Visualize your life the way you want to live it)
3) Have goals (Little milestones on the way to your final destination)
4) Do not wait for support! You are your best friend and greatest supporter
5) There will be setbacks – expect them but do not fret over them
6) Have dreams – detailed dreams colored with the scent of success and achievement
7) Invest in your brains and your career
8) When you choose a partner, choose someone who will push you forward as opposed to those freaks who would only hold you back!
9) Do not take no for an answer
10) When one door closes, turn around for there will be many other open doors.