Why did my husband stop being romantic?
Date posted: October 25, 2010
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Pressure my dear can change people's nature …. someone who is sweet, romantic, passionate, dreamy, etc (the way he was before) can turn into a piece of cynical shit under the pressure of living in Egypt …
driving is extremely stressful, you spend half of your day trying to get to work and back home,
parking is stressful,
running errands is stressful,
making money is stressful,
saving money is stressful,
getting married is stressful,
being married and being the only source of income is stressful,
having a baby is stressful,
worrying about the baby is stressful,
having food in the fridge all the time is stressful,
finding a job and keeping it is stressful,
paying installments is stressful …
There are times when just waking up in the morning is stressful! And most of the time just being nice to people is stressful! Smiling becomes so hard!
This is the worst environment for romance!
I am not defending your husband! I am just telling you that living in the real world leaves little room for the type of romance that you expect.
You are still the sheltered princess that you were when you were 17 but your husband was forced into cynicism because of the day to day pressures.
Actually, if I talk to him, he will tell me that he is married to an immature irresponsible kid-of-a-woman who knows nothing about how hard it is to struggle to make a living in this god-forsaken country!
Romance and passion are a state of mind not a character trait. How can he notice you or pay attention to you when he is always exhausted, drained, worried, or unstable at work?
He looks at his daughter and he thinks of the burden of educating her in good schools, feeding her food that is the least carcinogenic, and making sure she is healthy and happy.
I know you try to cheer him up but the pressure he is under is weighing on him.
Maybe you do need to work … find a job, a 9 to 5 job, and see for yourself how going to work, dealing with people at work, and going home is enough to kill your soul.
I am sure that this kiss you are dying for will not even cross your mind.