FOOD FOR THOUGHT – 1
Date posted: April 28, 2009
My mission in life is to get people to think and to question their beliefs. Every Monday I take Nile FM 104.2 listeners on a soul-searching mind-flossing trip in an attempt to set their minds free of guilt and traditions. Maybe one day they will be able to achieve a higher level of self awareness and accountability for their own actions and choices. How different would our lives be if we stop being what others expect us to be and – for once – be who we were created to be? Wouldn’t it be nice to aspire for all the things that we were told that we could never do and would never have?
COULD YOU GET MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO HAS – OR JUST RECOVERED FROM – CANCER OR A FATAL ILLNESS? WOULD YOUR FAMILY AGREE? HOW WOULD YOU TALK SOMEONE OUT OF IT OR INTO IT?
When I asked that question I had a deeper end in mind; I did not want to measure the greater good in humanity. I did not want to even know if the listeners would actually get married to someone who is dying or could die because of a terminal disease. I wanted people to look their own sense of hypocrisy and double standards in the eye. The responses I got were either:
- Yes we would and love conquers all. We will fight our families … we will fight for our loved ones. Anyone could die regardless of how healthy they are. It could have been me. It could happen to anyone. We have to be merciful … etc.
- No we would not. We would feel sorry for them but it is very difficult to be with someone who is in that much pain. We do not want to suffer the loss of a loved one. What if we have kids? It is not fair for the kids. This is called sympathy not love. It is a big responsibility … etc.
- Some listeners were willing to stay in their lives until they got better but refused the idea of marriage and others could not predict how they would react if they were in that situation.
Where was I going with that question? To those who put their hero hat on, I wanted to remind them of the many times when they rejected someone because they were too fat, too skinny, too dark, too fair, too anything that did not fit the physical image of Mr./Ms. Perfect. So before getting all heroic, look around you and see how many people who did not suffer any illness yet you were quick to shoo them away.
As for the camp that cannot bear the loss of a loved one, I wanted them to tell me what would they do if they were given a child with special needs?
The ones who tried to balance it out by staying but no committing need to remember that fake love or fake attention is easy to depict.
Finally those who do not know need to think deeper and harder to have a better understanding of themselves before they even consider getting involved in a relationship.