Date posted: September 22, 2010
This is not the first time that i send u my prb and as usuall i need ur opinion :))
there's a guy who i know through mutual friends ,i used to see him b4 and i liked him since i saw him but it was just a good looking guy liking
he was in a long time relationship of 4 years ,time passed and he recently (5 month ago) broke up wz his GF
she dumped him as he has finacial prbs,he statrs to go out wz my group whom all r couples we r the only singls in the group
then he became one of us as he going out wz us every day we got little by little close we exchanged nums we start 2 talk but not much
then we become friends we pick each other up somtimes when we r going out ,he asked me out alone in the easter as all of our friends were out of town,and somtimes he calls me to go out alone which happened sveral times but as friends,
he start to tell me his prb wz his ex and his financial prb & ask for my opinion in many things,after every one noticed that we got close one of our guys friends asked him if there's somthing between us and he should take care as am a good gurl and they don want any one to talk abt me
he said we r friends and i take care of that point and nothing happend to make ppl talk,then another friend asked him what he thought of me and he said she is very nice swet cute gurl the guy told him way should u get married he said i know i hve financial prbs now.
he talked wz another friend abt me that he like 2 talk wz me & we r understand each other and he knows that am a mrtial type of gurl not some one to play wz so he caustion in his behaviour wz me.
we now see each other every day alone or wz the group he calls me every weekend to go oout alone we hve lunch go to movies or spend the whole day out alone .
idon know wht 2 do r we just friends or he likes me and want to make sure of every thing b4 take any step,or he just need some one to fill the empty in his life after his ex????!!!!do u think i should conyinue like that,or make someone give him hints??let him go??or u have annother plan??tell me Marwa plz??am totally confused
I want you to pay attention carefully to what I will tell you
1) The guy is nice and decent
2) The guy is a friend
3) The guy is in deep shit (financial)
4) The guy is in deep shit (emotional)
5) The guy is in deep shit (mental)
6) A wise girl does not fall in love with a guy who is in deep shit!
Now he is hurt and confused and bruised inside out …. even if he said he loved you … it is a rebound … the guy fell from cloud nine and now you are helping him heal
He did not do anything wrong
The ball is totally in your court
DO NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM
Just be a good friend until he is back on his feet … then we see what happens or walk away before you become an official "shit magnet"