Ask Marwa: I love-hate her

Date posted: May 15, 2009

Dear Marwa

I am a 25 year old man and I need to ask you a question: Is it normal to love someone when you hate everything about that person? Am I normal? What do I do?
Mr. X

Dear Mr. X,

Yes … it is possible! This is called a love-hate relationship … the love comes from addiction and the hate comes from your mind … your mind is refusing her and her actions and her control over you but your heart and body is addicted to her. It is a very destructive type of relationship … very unstable and very unproductive.

You cannot get married to someone when you are angry at her. I am not saying leave her but you need to resolve those issues. I want you to talk to her … explain how you feel … what she did to hurt you … all the negative feelings have to come out … after they are out you can decide if your heart has healed or you cannot get over the anger. If you forgave her then resume the relationship if not then leave before you destroy your life.

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